You'll never believe what her boss said to her in her performance review.

I work in the finance department of a large pharmaceutical company. I have worked here for almost eight months. I have great relationships with my colleagues and am well respected by those I work with. At least, that's what I thought.

Today my boss asked me into his office for my annual performance review. This is what he said (be warned: it gets pretty nasty!)...

Natasha, you are doing generally very well and I think you're taking to the role quickly. Your account reconciliations skills are fairly strong, especially given some of the legacy systems we have floating around this place. They can be tricky to pick up.

However, if I had to point out one area of improvement - and I do, because that's how we all get better, right? [at this point he smiles at me!!] - I would just suggest that you let the other members of your team know if you have capacity so that you all share the work more evenly on a week-to-week basis.

That's not to say you don't do this already, but it's something I'm asking everybody to keep in mind moving forward.

It took me a little while to respond as I've been busy talking with the Fair Work Ombudsman and my legal advisor, but here goes:

Dear Mr Employer

Thank you for your feedback. I have considered it carefully... and I quit.

A balding, overweight, middle-aged Caucasian man has NO RIGHT to tell ME how to do MY job.

For almost a year I quietly went about my daily business alongside a handful of other finance professionals - many of whom were women. Only now has it occurred to me that my boss - a presumably HETEROSEXUAL presumably MARRIED MAN - was systematically hiring women, USING them for work and degrading them on a regular basis with these archaic "performance reviews".

By the way, let me just point out that the structure of your reviews is inherently sexist: you have a man essentially ejaculating feedback onto a woman, who is in no position to provide similar criticism to the man.

None of the decent, hard-working women that I called colleagues were ever given the standing or the opportunity to fire you.

A short animated film I saw on the Internet the other day described a circumstance where a woman was not able to say no to an offer of tea from a man. The film indicated that if the man proceeded to provide said tea, the situation would be tantamount to rape. Well, none of the women I worked with could have refused our boss's invitation to attend the performance review. Why don't you let that sink in for a while…

You are a perverted little man who thinks he can get away with anything because he's the boss. You couldn't be more wrong. I have spoken to my friends and they were appalled and embarrassed to hear what you said to me.

How dare you suggest that there are areas of my job needing improvement? I don't tell you how to do your job. That's your business.

You know, I'm going to be honest here and admit that there is a part of me - a remnant of the awkward little 14-year-old me - who thinks she's not good enough, and for a brief moment believed that my performance required improvement. I was actually giving some thought to going back to work and applying myself with increased fervour!

Fuck you. Fuck you for making me regress to that shameful part of my life, where I felt it necessary to make excuses for just being me.

I’m not great at my job. I'm lazy and that's why I don't let my colleagues know when I have capacity. I prefer to go on Facebook and read articles written in list form. That's who I am and I won't be made to apologise for it.




OMG Natasha how horrible! Hope your alright. That man is a PIG and unfortunately there are plenty more out there. You absolutely did the right thing I hope you publish his name and address so we can burn him at the stake!

JenniX | August 30, 2015, 7:23AM

On behalf of all men, let me apologise for my gender. I can’t believe that in 2015 there are still people who think they can act this way! Well guess what, you CAN’T! We CAN and we WILL bring this behaviour to an end. #CallItOut

Pete | August 30, 2015, 7:25AM

What a brave soul. You are a true inspiration.

lilycat | August 30, 2015, 7:26AM

What a brave soul. You are a true inspiration.

lilycat | August 30, 2015, 7:26AM

Glad to see I’m not the only one willing to stand up for my rights. Remember everyone: they only have the power we give!

Alex | August 30, 2015, 7:28AM

I couldn’t believe what your boss said. But your response was priceless.

Perd | August 30, 2015, 7:33AM

YES! Finally, somebody get’s it!

Agnaata | August 30, 2015, 7:33AM

Sounds like a pretty reasonable thing to say. Performance reviews are an ordinary part of most jobs, and they’re express purpose is to assess an individual’s performance in their role. The man in this instance didn’t stray into any ‘improper’ areas (eg, appearance, home life, etc) it all seems very proper. The author even admits that she is ‘lazy’. Why are people celebrating this?

Tim | August 30, 2015, 7:38AM

Hey Tim, I have a hashtag you might like. It’s called #NotAllMen. Go fuck yourself.

lilycat | August 30, 2015, 7:39AM

^^ what she said

Perd | August 30, 2015, 7:40AM

lol tim did you even read what he said? I quote “Your account reconciliations skills are fairly strong, especially given some of the legacy systems we have floating around this place. They can be tricky to pick up. That is nasty. That is not how to treat someone. If u think that is acceptable behaviou then you need to get your head checked.

JillyBean | August 30, 2015, 7:40AM

Uh, do you not know the difference between ‘their’ and ‘they’re, you ignorant prick? Go back to scumheap you swam out of.

Natasha | August 30, 2015, 7:40AM

On behalf of all men, let me apologise for Tim. Ladies, I assure you that there ARE decent men out there, and we’re NOT all assholes like Tim. #CallItOut

Pete | August 30, 2015, 7:43AM


Tim | August 30, 2015, 7:46AM

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